My lad is 5 and started Primary School last September and loves it or he did, OK he is a wee messer (duno where he gets it from like!) and probably doesnt listen much to what the teacher is sayin. But we sit and do his homework with him every evenin before he has his tea, either myself or Mrs Sub so we both know ALL his homework is done, he doesnt grumble about it, it may not be perfect but he does it all. Thing is recently he has started saying he doesnt want to go to school, we both thought this was just a phase after half term, but he still says he doesnt want to go some mornings. Recently I heard from another parent that their daughter had been put into one of the other teachers class for being bold and that my lad was there too. We asked him anout it and he said his teacher does this if anyone is bold. Again I understand thay cant have the kids running about all day but he is still only 5 afterall so you aint gona have him sat there quiet on his seat allday. Anyway he came home yesterday saying he didnt want to go to school today, I told him he only had one more day to go to the weekend. But lastnight when I was giving him a bath I noticed he had bruises on his back and his arms, I asked him how he got them and he said he fell. Now they aint the kind of bruise ya get if ya fall, even for a kid, I asked him again and told him that he wasnt gona get shouted at I just wanted to know how he got the bruises, but he just kept sayin he fell. Mrs Sub wants to wait for him to tell us what happened and maybe it is just something innocent, but I dont agree with her, I wana know whats going on! Any advice? I know Mrs Sub is afraid I will go off on one....too fu(kin right I will, if anything is happening him she (his teacher) will never teach again. What is the best thing to do do you think? Sub
I went through this exact same experiences, been bullied at that age school right through Primary school is frightening at that age, i would say he feels scared and hates going to school same that i went through. The one thing i regret was not been able to do anything due to there been a gang or a so called clique involved. Don't want to scare ya Mr. Sub but this could be the case. The chap is feeling alone and the friends he is hanging around with are not real friends most likely and come from bad family backgrounds. I made up all those sames excuses until my brothers and me mother got it out of me and that was the end of it. My mam did go in and have a word with Teachers and Principal alike but it doesn't seem to bother bullies, it might be different now that these professionals are going to listen to parents than back when i was in Primary school back in the last 80's early 90's. The best advice i don't know what i can give but if your kid is feeling like i did reach out to him and say comforting stuff like your not going to get into trouble so on and then that will relax him and he should start mentioning what is going on the poor fella.
Would obviously be best to try get a proper run of events from the lad and there are proper channels (school authorities or possibly police) to go through. Maybe approach the school principle but to be honest he may well fob you off so as not to bring any hassle to the school tough call mate but if I thought for one sec anyone had touched my kids I'd be f*cking ripping them a new one. (not the right way to go about things but that;s the way it is)
I don't think the teacher would be hitting a child in this day and age, is the teacher Mr. Sub an oldish teacher or a youngish one?
could be older kids in the school, i think teachers know there limits these days and wouldnt risk there careers. Try and get some info outa him now besides letting it drag on for days/weeks, then approach the school Hope ya get it sorted out
Just a thing i heard recently...not directly to you supersub but in general... You can actually get the Gardai involved into it all if your child is being bullied.They can sue the school and the parents of the bully. This now only applies to physical bullying not verbal Good Luck mate
You have to find out off your boy what’s going on. Having a lad of the same age I know that sounds easier that it is but it’s vital. Maybe get him on his own when you’re out at the cinema , park , play centre ……somewhere he’s having a good time and relaxed and just bring it up in a round about way, basically beat around the bush , as opposed to in your gaff with you and the missus looking at him . My lad started last September too and was fine , then in January didn’t want to go anymore as "he hated it " and would n’t say why . Eventually we got it out of him , it was his teacher ,it also involved being sent to another class for being bold (at 5?) plus other stuff I won’t bore you with , we got it sorted and he’s now fine . I wouldn’t have any hesitation in going to the school and talking to his teacher and head teacher . See what they have to say and take it from there . After re reading this I don’t really think it is any help , but good luck with your lad and I hope it get sorted as soon as possible for his sake.
She's an old school type teacher, she taught me 28 years ago. Me and Mrs Sub have a meeting with the head tonight, thanks to all for your advice. Sub
Any buising on children should be invistaged, I am glad you are going to the head teacher, its tough enough for kids, without any type of bully's old or young. maybe moving to another class may help. I hope it all sorts out for you, good luck
Similar thing happened to me at that age. At lunch, the teacher would leave and older pupils came in to supervise us. I got the bully treatment off some of them and for a couple of weeks I would have to be literally dragged to school. It only stopped when one of my classmates told his ma, who told mine, who went to the principal. I was too scared to tell me folks meself. I hope the meeting went well and best of luck
Starting taking a log all the goings on Sub. Sounds pretty serious. If you have concerns I'd do go the school, wouldn't mention the bruises directly but ask if your little fella has had run ins with other kids etc. Or has he fallen recently.
A child of 5 is very innocent and can be told things by bullies/teachers etc and just believes it to be true. I've 2 younger brothers & one of them has a form of autism and got a terrible time off one of his teachers in primary school, my brother was absolutely miserable in school that year (as if it wasn't hard enough for him as it was). He was also bullied too. We sat him down and explained to him that nobody no matter if they are a teacher or a kid has a right to put their hands on him ever. We obviously had to keep on telling him this over and over as it can be hard to get kids to listen but eventually we found out what was going on and went to the principle about it. Perhaps you could also talk to the principle about getting a couple of the older kids to keep an eye out for your lad in the yard also. Good luck mate
Talk to all the other Parents in the Class that you know and Tell them what's going on.Ask them to have a Chat with their Son or Daughter to See if they have seen anything.Kids of that Age are very Honest and if there is something going on in the Classroom or the Yard i Bet one of them will Say something to their Parents and then it will get back to you. i'd hate to Think the Teacher would be Involved but if she is i'd Take her to the xxxxxx Cleaners!
Get some evidence, and don't be too hasty to blame the teacher when talking to other parents or the principal without it... I'd guess there's been a few defamation cases for this kind of thing. I did a quick search for "school teacher" and "defamation" . "In another recent case a school teacher sued successfully over false allegations posted on the Friends Reunited web site." Hope you get to the bottom of it.